Why can I never find anything to wear
How often have you been going on a night out and you open your wardrobe and can’t find anything to wear?
That is, you can’t find anything that has the right look but most importantly is COMFORTABLE!
My wardrobe is bulging with clothes, so I can understand the despair of Mr H when I say I haven’t got anything to wear.
Or my own despair when I need to spend a few hours trying all the combinations on to see what will work! And we all know that what I mean by ‘work’ is “can I eat a meal and not have to undo a button at the end of the night”, which is so embarrassing!.
Admit it, we have all been there!
Whilst I haven’t fully embraced the elasticated waistbands yet, they do have a certain attraction at times. And I have to say leggings come out more times than I care to admit!
But, I refuse to become an old lady yet!
I know, I know you are going to tell me….
- It’s more difficult to lose weight as you get older
- I have a busy family life and don’t have the time to cook two separate meals each day
- I do a lot of travelling with work and can’t follow a diet
- It’s difficult to stick to a diet when my family continue to eat the same food that got me into this state
- I enjoy food and don’t want to punish myself
- I’ve tried lots of diets and nothing works
It’s OK to tell yourself that you’re happy being overweight. But if your weight is restricting your life in some way then is being overweight such a great thing?
I know, all your friends are telling you that weight loss is impossible now you’re over 40. But if that is true why do some people mange to do it?
I’ve used all these excuses myself. But, and here is the rub, they are all excuses to avoid change. None of them are facts, they are intangible emotions. They are the stories you tell yourself to make yourself feel better.
What these excuses mean is that you are more comfortable continuing with what you’re doing rather than changing.
Change can be difficult. It will put you outside your comfort zone. But without starting to make that change you will always stay the same.
Is there a secret to weight loss?
I’m not about to tell you that weight loss is easy. Sorry if that was what you were expecting.
There is no get thin quick schemes here!
The big question is do you want to be fit and healthy more than you want to look at your wardrobe and wonder “what fits today?”.
The secret to a healthy weight loss is to banish the yo-yo diets and start thinking of creating a new ‘healthy lifestyle’.
Thinking of the changes as a lifestyle means that the new healthy habits you create will evolve into something that is second nature to you.
They will be habits you will continue for the rest of your life. I know, scary stuff.
They will supersede the bad habits you have now. You know the ones I’m talking about, the ones that got you into your current predicament.
We all want an effortless way to lose weight, but let’s be honest, we can’t continue to do the same thing we have always done and expect things to be different.
What we need is something that is insignificant enough to not make us uncomfortable, but is significant enough to make a difference.
We have to make some changes to elicit change and the smaller we make these changes the easier it is to incorporate into our daily lives.
Why hasn’t dieting worked before ?
Our bodies need balance to perform well.
We don’t want to have to think about every action we take, we want to intuitively take the right action. Our body likes to develop its own balance, so we can make decisions without thinking.
Our bodies learn from our past actions. Without thinking we take the path we have taken before that provided us with the result we needed. That could be to provide us with comfort, speed, pleasure, ease, whatever was needed at the time.
It is natural for our bodies to take the path of least resistance. And this is the reason why we form habits.
These habits can be good or bad. And, let’s be honest, you wouldn’t be reading this if the habits we have formed were wholly good.
It is the bad habits we need to focus on now to create the change our bodies need.
Yet, too much change also causes an imbalance. This is why dramatic diets may give you the quick results you need, but in the long term they are not something you can continue with.
We may think to be healthy we can only eat salads. But if we previously ate a lot of bread, pasta and potatoes then making the change to cut them out is a struggle.
Your body naturally tries to correct the imbalance, and in doing so makes your diet fail, as you fall back on your old habits.
It’s the breaking of the bad habits that is the difficult thing. Once that is done the rest is easy!
How to build healthy habits and stick to them to effortlessly manage your weight loss
Too often we convince ourselves that massive success requires massive action. Why do you think we follow the fad diets and crazy exercise goals!
But this puts pressure on ourselves to try and maintain an unrealistic level of commitment.
The easiest way to stay on track to obtain and maintain a healthy lifestyle is by adjusting your equilibrium in small steps.
Small change is possible and comfortable to do and managing this process of healthy habit creation is vital.
Making a 1% change in our lifestyle, for the good, is hardly earth shattering, but can be far more meaningful in the long run. The trick is to maintain it consistently.
The difference tiny improvements can make over time can be astounding!
Here’s some maths for you – if you can get 1% better each day for one year, you’ll end up 37 times better by the end of the year. Conversely if you get 1% worse each day for one year, you’ll decline nearly down to 0.
So 37 x fitter, 37 x slimmer, 37x better at anything in a year is a fantastic achievement!
This could be as simple as cutting back on the coffee you drink and replacing it with water. Or maybe cutting out high calorie snacks and replacing them with nuts or fruit will make a bigger impact for you.
Keep track of your commitment to this habit and check how well you are sticking to it by using a habit tracker.
Try and maintain consistency. Even if it is a small change over the course of a year the effects will be impressive.
The Health & Fitness Planner has habit trackers to help you define your new habits and keep track of them on a weekly, monthly and 6 weekly basis.
Or find an app that helps you stay motivated. I find Lifesum a useful tool to track what I am eating and my exercise on a daily basis.
Over time try and aim for 1% improvements in your lifestyle to provide motivation and interest. Try and create further new healthy habits. This time it could be reducing the amount of fats and carbs in your diet, or increasing you exercise levels each week.
Building steady small changes to form new habits will incrementally improve your lifestyle and as a result your health.
Is habit tracking worth it?
Do you think you could make a 1% change to your lifestyle?
Is it worth it to be able to walk into any clothes shop and have the choice of whatever is in there? Surely that is better than just having the choice of the clothes that covers the lumps and bumps?
I for one do not want to be on that slow decline into old age and accept the excuses.
I’m not ready to be written off just yet and nor should you!
If you want to read more about building habits a fantastic book is Atomic Habits by James Clear. He provides a great in depth knowledge on how habits are created and gives techniques on how to incorporate them into your life.